More Feminism Thoughts

I am forever being asked why I am so frustrated with feminism, by friends of both genders who have accepted the claimed philosophy rather than the often seen behavior of feminism...  And today, another such example came up.

One of my female friends was commenting on how for many years, due to feminist "indoctrination" (her word), she felt mildly guilty about asking a man to help her open a stuck jar or other strength related task, or for thanking him if he did.

And after much discussion, the conclusion was reached that it was because men are not supposed to assume women need help and women are supposed to believe that they are perfectly capable without any help from a man... and yet there still exist many situations in which a man is not considered to be a "real man" if he does not help a woman who needs it.

Which led me to the following:

One of my frustrations with feminism is the extent to which men are still expected to help out, but are not suppose to OFFER to, except when they are. It's so confusing.

We are to assume women are perfectly capable of doing things for themselves, but we're assholes if we won't open a jar for them that they cannot open for themselves.... but we're also assholes if we assume they need help and offer it before it is asked for... except when Emma Watson suggests that men have not helped out because they have not been invited, after which feminists all over the place had their heads explode, saying "Haven't been asked, it was their fucking DUTY, they shouldn't have waited to be asked!"

So... to sum up, we should never help unless asked, except when we should know to help without being asked, but not if the person being helped doesn't want the help, which we're supposed to know even though she has neither asked nor told us this is something she doesn't want to ask about.

Seems all perfectly fair to me... Easy peasy, I know EXACTLY how to behave.