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Sunday, September 14, 2008

John McCain's Family Values

One interesting facet we've started to see is people adding the text "Snopes confirms this" to an e-mail forward, but if you go to Snopes.com, you find that just the opposite is true.

So before I get to the heart of the matter, here's a link to the Snopes page, on which they say that the basic facts presented in it are true.

http://www.snopes.com/politics/mccain/carol.asp

It was forwarded to me by my mother for comment (someone had sent it to her), and according to Snopes, originally appeared in June 2008 in the Daily Mail, a UK newspaper.

The tone is decidedly anti-McCain, but the facts are basically correct, and as such, I would say the facts sort of justify the tone.

Leave a comment, let me know what you think...

Liam.

John McCain likes to illustrate his moral fibre by referring to his five years as a prisoner-of- war in Vietnam. And to demonstrate his commitment to family values, the 71-year-old former US Navy pilot pays warm tribute to his beautiful blonde wife, Cindy, with whom he has four children. But there is another Mrs. McCain who casts a ghostly shadow over the Senator's presidential campaign. She is seldom seen and rarely written about, despite being mother to McCain's three eldest children. She was the woman McCain dreamed of during his long incarceration and torture in Vietnam's infamous 'Hanoi Hilton' prison and the woman who faithfully stayed at home looking after the children and waiting anxiously for news. But when McCain returned to America in 1973 to a fanfare of publicity and a handshake from Richard Nixon, he discovered his wife had been disfigured in a terrible car crash three years earlier. Her car had skidded on icy roads into a telegraph pole on Christmas Eve, 1969. Her pelvis and one arm were shattered by the impact and she suffered massive internal injuries.

When Carol was discharged from hospital after six months of life-saving surgery, the prognosis was bleak. In order to save her legs, surgeons had been forced to cut away huge sections of shattered bone, taking with it her tall, willowy figure. She was confined to a wheelchair and was forced to use a catheter. Today, she stands at just 5ft4in and still walks awkwardly, with a pronounced limp. Her body is held together by screws and metal plates and, at 70, her face is worn by wrinkles that speak of decades of silent suffering. For nearly 30 years, Carol has maintained a dignified silence about the accident, McCain and their divorce. But last week at the bungalow where she now lives at Virginia Beach, a faded seaside resort 200 miles south of Washington, she told The Mail on Sunday how McCain divorced her in 1980 and married Cindy, 18 years his junior and the heir to an Arizona brewing fortune, just one month later. 'My marriage ended because John McCain didn't want to be 40, he wanted to be 25. You know that happens...it just does.'

In 1979 – while still married to Carol – he met Cindy at a cocktail party in Hawaii. Over the next six months he pursued her, flying around the country to see her. Then he began to push to end his marriage. Some of McCain's acquaintances are less forgiving, however. They portray the politician as a self-centered womanizer who effectively abandoned his crippled wife to 'play the field'. They accuse him of finally settling on Cindy, a former rodeo beauty queen, for financial reasons. Ted Sampley, who fought with US Special Forces in Vietnam and is now a leading campaigner for veterans' rights, said: 'I have been following John McCain's career for nearly 20 years. I know him personally. There is something wrong with this guy and let me tell you what it is – deceit. "When he came home and saw that Carol was not the beauty he left behind, he started running around on her almost right away. Everybody around him knew it. Eventually he met Cindy and she was young and beautiful and very wealthy. At that point McCain just dumped Carol for something he
thought was better." 'McCain is the classic opportunist. He's always reaching for attention and glory,' he said. After he came home, Carol walked with a limp. So he threw her over for a poster girl with big money from Arizona. And the rest is history.'


Ross Perot, a billionaire Texas businessman, and a former presidential candidate, who paid her medical bills all those years ago, now believes that both Carol McCain and the American people have been taken in by a man who is unusually slick and cruel – even by today's standards of modern politics.

4 Comments:

Anonymous Anonymous said...

Assuming it's all true, and it likely is -- I have mixed thoughts and feelings about it.

I suspect McCain would have been a womanizer on his return from being a prisoner even if his wife hadn't had the accident. I doubt he would have stayed with her long.

But even if he wasn't a womanizer upon release, I can understand how the accident and her appearance could contribute to alienation of affections, as they say. It's not fair, but it happens. Plus, they both had been captives in their own way and at the same time, with her hospitalization and his time as a prisoner. People change after those life experiences.

What's important to me is how he treated her throughout the whole mess. I suspect he didn't treat her all that well. And while money isn't everything, I hope McCain treated her well with the divorce settlement and child support. And I would hope he'd try and repay some of the past medical expensives paid by Ross Perot (of course Perot could afford them).

But I suspect McCain's silence about his first marriage has little to do with protecting Carol as it does about protecting himself. I wouldn't doubt he was being "slck and cruel" as Perot put it.

But you know, I don't see the campaign tone to be so pro-family values. I'm sure other Republicans tout that message enough. But if the family values of a candidate matters in a Presidential race, then McCain shouldn't win on that platform.

Monday, September 15, 2008 8:07:00 AM

 
Blogger Liam said...

I agree with you 100%.

If McCain isn't running on family values (and in truth, while it's an undercurrent, it hasn't been the main thrust of his argument, which seems to be "Vote for me, the other guy is scary"), then I agree entirely.

Divorce happens. People don't always handle things like this in reasonable ways. I'm not overly happy about the fact that he chose to find a replacement before letting his wife know he was leaving her, but it happens.

This becomes relevant whenever he brings up values, though. On those rare occasions when he actually starts talking about issues, instead of building Obama up as some big bogeyman, if the issue of family values comes up, this is good to keep in mind.

Liam.

Monday, September 15, 2008 9:27:00 AM

 
Anonymous Anonymous said...

Ok first WHAT does this have to do with the campeign I mean think about it.... yes its a family problem, but don't we all have some, Instead ofpointing at him saying na-na your the bad guy think about what we have done.



We just don't have anyone to find out and put in public so people hate you.



I mean seriously O.K. he changed after he was imprisoned, but all he did was react tochange, Now I don't agree with the way he dealed with it, but imanged that was you..... would you have reacted any better. I do hope he still has some respect for her.

Tuesday, October 07, 2008 9:00:00 PM

 
Blogger Liam said...

You may be right. McCain hasn't been hammering the "family values" stuff as much lately. I seem to recall that several weeks ago, when I first posted this, he'd been on a bit of a "family values" tear.

I have to say, I object to hypocrisy a lot more than I do to basic human failings. So I object to Eliot Spitzer (who made his career in part taking down prostitutes and johns) more than I do John Edwards (whose wife, the only person who really should have anything to say about it, has obviously forgiven him).

The problem is that McCain tries so hard to sell the image of himself as selfless, doing for country before doing for self, etc, and yet most of what I've read about the man says that most of that is a show, because it sells and it gets him what he wants.

He didn't, for example, "suspend his campaign", even though his still insists he did. The campaign went on, almost nothing changed, and he ran back to insert himself into something he had no real part of (he was not on that committee) and by all accounts if he had any effect at all, it was to slow the process down.

But he made such a big show of "putting country before campaign", largely because that was the best thing he could think of to DO for his campaign at that time.

And this little tidbit about how he left his first wife, both the circumstances surrounding it and the way he did it, shows that he's not the selfless person he sells himself as.

Oh, and around the time I posted this, he was officially claiming that he'd been divorced from Carol for three months before he started wooing Cindy. In fact, by all reports, he and Cindy were already living together and had filed for a marriage license before he actually divorced Carol.

And that goes to hypocrisy. If he just came out and said "Yes, the stories are true. I was young, I was just back from the war, and I made a big mistake, and that is the part of my past that I am the most ashamed of" I'd have a lot of respect for him.

But it doesn't fit his narative that says being a POW for 5 years changed him, and made him a better man. So he lies about it.

But maybe you're right, it was years ago, perhaps it should be past history and not brought up again... then again, if that's past history then so is the POW stuff, and he drops back to that every chance he gets.

Liam.

Wednesday, October 08, 2008 12:15:00 AM

 

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